RI: Relationships Index

 I am for you.You are for me. We are forever.

Golden words we all pledge to each other for any relationship in life..... whether in Family or Friends.....anywhere,anytime for everyone we love, we care for.......

Today, Social media......of any kind is flooded with Relationship goals and advice.

But as a Paradox, why are we facing an alarming rise of broken relations,disheartened souls,dejection, depression and unhappiness in general. 

Why are we seeing such low RI: Relationship Index.

In any relationship, at any phase or at any point...there is never equal 50:50 contribution between the 2 partners.Either it is 70:30  and at times 80:20. The survival of the relationship depends upon how much importance the 2 people in that particular relationship ....give to that relationship rather than themselves. 

What is the secret of lasting relationships which our parents, and their parents had with one another?????? 

What is the reason of high HI: Happiness index in them?????

My blog on this is just my observation into the lives of my close family.

I neither preach nor am I critical. 

My Grandmother, my aunts,uncles,my parents, cousins......the entire family has always been close knit. Nobody has been ever taught how to maintain RI: Relationship Index.

Everyone has been observing the elders maintaining a decorum of conduct with each other.

My observation::::

Respect.... irrespective of age,gender,status,hierarchy.....every person was respected. Each person 's view and opinions was respected. 

Help....unconditional help to every one who came without any expectations. The home,heart and hearth was always wholeheartedly open for anyone who came to my house.

Humility..... in any relationship, one person is always contributing more compared to the other.but never have I ever seen anybody being ridiculed, insulted and shamed for their footfalls.nor have I seen anybody authorizing supremacy.

Acceptance......every person in the relation was accepted as a Package.....the shortcomings of each were accepted .Never in any family gathering has anyone belittled the lesser privileged.

Transparency.....there has been a transparency of thoughts,differences and limitations in  the family Nobody has ever been over ruled or ignored.The elders had been very transparent regarding their Limitations- Physicallybecause majority women were working.

Emotionally....because everyone excelled in their careers and busy professional lives.Giving individual attention to every member was obviously impossible. 

Financial issues...yes....most relationships today crumble because of false assurances, promises and unfulfilled expectations. 

My family, everyone was so busy....that adage" Family that eats together,stays  together" never  applied ever.

But what brought everyone close  was just being there for each other in those times when needed most.

Even today we may not talk to each other every hour of the day.......but everyone is positive about that available shoulder to support when needed most.

In our life,we all want to reach certain point.We amass lots of things in life trying to reach that point.

But in the end it doesn't even matter........

As way up there ....got to leave everyone and everything behind......

What remains is memories and impressions we leave for those left behind......to be cherished about us forever. 

The true score of success in life,dear friends is our RI: Relationship Index score.