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Emotional Maturity

Emotional Maturity. In school,I participated in many Debate competitions. I loved these competitions more when it was a team participation . I preferred Team Debate over Individual Debating Competitions. In Team debates,all of us with our assigned Teacher would meet in evening, the Group leader would choose The Opener who introduced the Team,Topic and Whether they represented the Affirmative team or Opposing Team. The Middle Order. Last would be The Closer,who summarized the Entire Debate and also would put forth the key points against the other Team. After many participations,I became in Senior class ,the Closer. Later,I preferred always being a part of Opposing Team especially in topics which weighed more on the Affirmative side. Debate Competition helps in clarity of thoughts .It develops in a person to put forth their opinions on a subject,argue with the Opposing side calmly but with authority even if the balance is weighing more on the other side. This Blog is not about ...
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Emotional Education

 Emotional Education.  In India,since a child is born,both girls and boys ,are given Education.  Once the child learns to talk..... Proud parents and grandparents make the child repeat... " A for Apple.... B for Ball ... 1,2,3.. Later the child rotes learn Literature, Mathematics ...later Sciences and Social sciences.  Only Curriculum is given importance in terms of Education.  Whether at home or at schools and colleges.  But...... When it comes to Emotions..... The child is expected to learn about Emotions on own as life throws its own challenges and forces one to create own path and journey.  India is a Patriarchal Society where Men are supposed to behave certain way.They are taught to follow certain attitudes and mindsets.  Women are ingrained with particular dictums of society since childhood.  A small boy is taught to " Toughen" up to be a " Man". A certain definition of Masculinity is taught to him since young. Tears and Fear are 2 emo...
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Ek Duje ke Vaaste

  Ek Duje Ke Vaaste. A favorite song from YRF DiL Toh Pagal Hai. Even more favorite dialogue of the film.... Someone,Somewhere is  out there specially for you.One day you will surely meet each other. God decides as He knows who it is for you. It's Destiny which brings u both together. Absolutely true. Marriages and Union between 2 people are made in Heaven. It's pre-decided by God. I believe in this. It is so surreal. One day,you meet " That Person",a complete stranger.You have never seen this person before.You don't know anything about this person's past,childhood. Yet,once you meet this stranger....a brief interaction.....you simply connect with each other. You feel the urge to meet this stranger repeatedly to know more about this stranger. You want to understand the person well. And you get the strong instinct within.....I want to be with this person only to spend my entire life together......till end...... Have children......start family. G...
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How Big is The Heart

  How big is the Heart? How big is The Heart? If taken in medical language,bigger the size of The Heart,grave is the condition. But metaphorically, The Heart is considered the generosity of a person. As kids,all cousins during vacations would be sent to that house....which had a Big Heart . Those days,we all would be sent to my Mother's Eldest sister,Sudha Maushi,we all called her " Aai" means Mother in Marathi. Aai's house was in Bandra. She lived in Government Colony ,quarters for the Govt of Maharashtra employees.My Kaka was having a Government job and Aai was homemaker. Her home was not very big.Small Government quarters. But Aai had a very Big Heart.She herself had a big family.She would happily take care of us additional small kids( almost 9 to 10 of us during summer holidays).Also she took all of us out for small picnics to Kamala Nehru Park or Gateway of India with packed homemade food and snacks.Aai in her busy household chores would find time play wit...
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Choices

  Choices made in Life. Life ,the moment a person lets out  first Cry....announcing arrival in World,is challenging and interesting. The moment we are born, each day is new,....we have to learn everything....for our survival and growth. Right from adjusting to the new environment, followed by milestones..... As we grow up,....enter outside world.....different environment from our homes,new people....new challenges....more adjustments. As we start moving from different phases of life,.... Life throws various Choices. Choices to choose. Whatever we choose at that moment of times.....decides our life in future...... The Choices we make at every phase....and at each situation of life.....decides the path and journey of our Life. When I was in education phase of Life..... Age and hormones.... Peer pressure and Environment..... So many situations came into my life.... Teenage,Youth..... Phases brought multiple challenges and moments.... Which enticed and lured me.... ...
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Value of a Parent

 Value of a Parent..... I was standing at the small shop nearby a school to purchase something early morning.  I saw some school kids get down off the Autorikshaw, hand over 20Rs ,50Rs to the shopkeeper and buy chips,biscuits,tidbits,snacks hurriedly.  I asked one kid, " Are you going for a picnic today?" The kid moved his head" No." And the entire lot ran to the school gate as the bell started ringing.  The shopkeeper claimed" Madam,nowadays mothers don't have time to prepare breakfast for the kid so earing the morning. Earlier,joint family distributed work...now the lady has to do all work alone.So she hands 20- 50 Rs to the child to eat some breakfast.These kids buy junk food." This incident, got me thinking many aspects in Life. I had a working Mother.She would get up at 4am,prepare chapatis and one sabji .This would be breakfast and lunch for the entire family of 4.Lunch boxes for all 4 every day though would be the same. Then she left for work by...
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Family and Responsibility

  Responsible & Responsibility. My Ajji,born pre independence times,used to tell me,how big and huge her family used to be. At a time, kitchen used to prepare meals for almost 20 and more people. Apart from family members ( 16 and more) ,there would be extended family members,some people from her village visiting the city for some work....and even students from under privileged backgrounds. I was intrigued hearing non family members- Coming from her village randomly....and poor students being fed hot meals. My Ajja has financially helped many in their dire needs....and has even taken.... Responsibilities..... Of siblings,their education, and families.... Of people from his village hometown.... Of under privileged people around him. Post independence, my parents took Responsibilities.....financially and emotionally....of siblings and few extended family along with handful friends. Myself and my generation take Responsibilities of Only Family. Family is me,my spouse, k...
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