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Game of Cards

  Game of Cards. I don't endorse betting on cards.nor advocate gambling. Cards is a game,we kids of 80s played in Summer vacation afternoons. There were no ACs nor coolers. No outdoor game centres. No Online games,no laptops,no Playstations. No Summer workshops. No tours nor traveling . So the 2 months long Mumbai Summers, sweltering hot afternoons,were spent in indoor games like Cards,Board games and the brighter ones played Chess. Playing Cards with cousins and friends  was enjoyed by all. At night ,even the elders would join us. Game of Cards taught us kids many things. Many life lessons Learnt. Cards if played as a Team taught us to compete with each other ,against and together. Team spirit taught us to support the weaker players in the group. Card Games taught us to rejoice even in loss.The winner and loser both pitched in for icecreams after the game. Card Games had cheaters too .Those who never could face a loss,would cheat on their cards.In life, you do e...

Am I Indispensable?

  Am I Indispensible? I met with an accident. Got hit by a racing car which tried to jump the red signal. Resulting in a Cast on my leg for 1 month. My kids were small, and majority of housework especially cooking was done by me. Left me perplexed and anxious. How will things work out daily because of my inability to perform  household chores? Initial 2 days,I agree,were difficult and disorganized. But ,I saw the house and kids being managed with help of my parents a few days,helpers employed after they left. My husband and kids learnt to manage everything without my help. Before my accident, I felt everyone was dependent completely on me. But I was in such an illusion. Lesson learnt. I am not Indispensable. A neighbor lost her husband. She was not well educated to secure a job after his death.2 small children to be cared.House to be run.Old parents too dependent. Everyone wondered,how things will work as her late husband was the sole earning person. Everyone else...

FOMO fear

  FOMO I was at my evening walk in a nearby park. As temperatures are high nowadays, park is seeing many walkers in the evening. 2 ladies were conversing behind. One lady" My son complained that he was the only one amongst all his friends who doesn't have a Playstation. I have been forcing my husband to buy one fir the child so that he doesn't feel left out." This conversation took me back to my childhood. Growing up in a middle class surrounding, either nobody had luxury or it would be just one home who just bought a Color Television. All the neighborhood would gather in that one home and together would watch a popular movie on a Sunday evening. FOMO- Fear of Missing Out... This feeling was never there yesteryears. Today,FOMO is forcing everyone into indulgence. Beyond their capacity or unnecessary. In school,rules were strict. Everyone had to bring simple roti and sabji in tiffin. No frivolous expensive items were allowed in school. Parents too never ove...

Why me,Ma?

  Why me,Ma? As Anaesthesiologist, I work in all fields of Medicine. Some cases melt you emotionally. Paediatric patients are very emotional. In my years of experience, personally ,I have found Paediatric group easy and difficult both. Difficult for Anaesthesia. But easy to deal with as the Paediatric age groups have more pain threshold and resilience compared to adult. A Cancer advanced stages child comes for Scans Sedation is required because the child is in excruciating pain..... A child suffering from debilitating disease which is hereditary. The other child born is healthy..... The eyes of the suffering child ask .." Why me?" The child who is working hard,sincerely ,with lots of efforts, for any exam or difficult situation in life ....at any age..... if fails to make the mark..and in disappointment asks" Why me,Ma? This question just leaves a Parent helpless....flabbergasted . A helpless situation where no solutions nor answers can be found. Parenting is...

Real vs Reel.

  In the " REAL" World. I had been to a condolence meeting of a Senior Doctor. So many people had gathered there to pay their last respects. It was overwhelming to see that the Senior Doctor had touched so many lives....and that day was the proof of his Good Work throughout his life. I went to offer condolences to his son...." Sir earned lot of Good will by his enormous benevolent work." His son replied" That's what he earned only in his whole life.Only Good Will.No money." What is important in our Life? Today,our young generation is immersed in Digital media and Artificial Intelligence. They are more involved and connected to ' Reel" and " Virtual media. They have lakhs of Followers who 👍 Like them on Instagram and X. They communicate majority of their day on Social platforms with unknown strangers. But in Real world.... They remain aloof and secluded from surrounding and society. Absolute no interaction nor communication. ...

Farewell Day

  Farewells. Sunday,while cleaning the house for Ugadhi festival, I found the steel trunk which had been with me throughout my hostel life. I brought it along with me after marriage to Hubli. This steel trunk brought back Nostalgia. It has fond memories of my school,Junior college and Medical days. Some random pictures of faces forgotten. But what was interesting most.... The Farewell Slam Books... Slam book we friends wrote for each other on Farewell Day.... The last day of that education period..... 10th Standard 12th Standard MBBS.... Housemanship Postgraduation...... Farewell Day.... A very emotional day. Mixed feelings. A feeling of Pride and Happiness in completing a Milestone of our Life. A feeling of Apprehension ...thinking about future...what happens next. A feeling of Excitement....for starting another new phase of Life. Most important feeling is.... Sadness of parting with friends with whom we shared a great bond for years. Friends with whom we gre...

The Real Test of Life

  The Real Test of Life. I have given many competitive enterance exams, prepared for various exams almost till few years ago in my life. Initially I felt my boards were tough,then came pre medical.....till I faced the toughest in my academic career....my Final year MBBS exams as it had many subjects and exams went on for 2 months. But I feel academic exams are easiest as what you read to prepare for the exams ...actually comes in the exam. Parenting is in my opinion the incredibly toughest and real exam one gives as an individual. This exam has no curriculum nor syllabus. Though guide books are aplenty and many people feel authoritative on Parenting...... Only when one becomes a Parent.....each child is different and each day a different challenge. With each growing year of the child,New issues and new situations arise each moment. Each generation comes with its own challenges of Parenting. When in initial years,feeding and nurturing needs solutions..... Toddlers come wit...