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Mother

 Mother. Mother is the person by definition who carries a child in her womb for 9 months,bears the excruciating labor pain and brings a new life into this world. Nurturing and Caring.....is her Maternal love. But just giving birth to a baby isn't enough. Raising the child to become a confident, compassionate and strong human being is what makes a Woman ....A Mother. It's not necessary to birth the child..... It's how you Raise the child....even if you haven't given birth...to the child. A child looks at the Mother 's face to understand emotions in the beginning.  I learnt this after I had my first baby. My son would look at my face whenever he was taken for his checkups and treatment. Initially, as a new Mommy,anxiety would be seen in my eyes and emotions. He would start crying even if he wasn't hurt by anything.  Soon,I learnt to control my emotions and anxiety. I would go for each of his  Doctor 's visit smiling and make him laugh.Result was,my son would b...

Blind????

  Blind ???? Yesterday I saw the movie " Shrikanth". Biopic on Visually impaired Shrikanth Bola, MIT graduate and successful entrepreneur. Played v aesthetically by Rajkumarr Rao. He says" In our country,2% are Visually Impaired.but the rest 98% is Blind". So so true. Blind to not see so many things. Lack of Civic Sense- Blind to not be able to see the wastebins kept in corner.Hence,we Indians throw used plastic waterbottles,chocolate wrappers,chips packets right on the ground in public places or on road while walking or from our cars. Lack of Respect- Apathy and Arrogance makes us spit every where without seeing....someone passing by..... Without seeing place or property.... Hence all walls and roads of India are pink and red because of Pan / Gutkha stains. Beautiful monuments which speak of our rich heritage.....are stained. Blind to Rules- We can't see signals nor sign boards. We jump red signals, enter no entry.... We park in No Parking. We d...

Enjoying a Lemonade

 Enjoying  a Lemonade..... Today being Sunday,I go for a long run. But instead,I decided to go for a long walk over Nruptatunga Betta,a small hillock in Hubli . The temperatures soaring during the day and nights sweltering too this summer,the cool breeze early morning was a blessing.  Usually on Sundays, my runs are tracked by my Samsung phone. My attention is more on my pace and distance covered.  The cool breeze on the hill made me completely ignore my phone,my pace and time. First time I was concentrating more on the sounds of nature than tracking my activity. I could hear the Koyal singing..... Sparrows chirping.... Peacocks shouting somewhere far in the background.  I saw a squirrel running hither tether....across the road. Some children were playing ball .....while some badminton.  First time I was not disturbed for hours by ringing of my phone . I was completely at leisure enjoying my surroundings and my walk without rushing back.... No stress of rac...

Game of Cards

  Game of Cards. I don't endorse betting on cards.nor advocate gambling. Cards is a game,we kids of 80s played in Summer vacation afternoons. There were no ACs nor coolers. No outdoor game centres. No Online games,no laptops,no Playstations. No Summer workshops. No tours nor traveling . So the 2 months long Mumbai Summers, sweltering hot afternoons,were spent in indoor games like Cards,Board games and the brighter ones played Chess. Playing Cards with cousins and friends  was enjoyed by all. At night ,even the elders would join us. Game of Cards taught us kids many things. Many life lessons Learnt. Cards if played as a Team taught us to compete with each other ,against and together. Team spirit taught us to support the weaker players in the group. Card Games taught us to rejoice even in loss.The winner and loser both pitched in for icecreams after the game. Card Games had cheaters too .Those who never could face a loss,would cheat on their cards.In life, you do e...

Am I Indispensable?

  Am I Indispensible? I met with an accident. Got hit by a racing car which tried to jump the red signal. Resulting in a Cast on my leg for 1 month. My kids were small, and majority of housework especially cooking was done by me. Left me perplexed and anxious. How will things work out daily because of my inability to perform  household chores? Initial 2 days,I agree,were difficult and disorganized. But ,I saw the house and kids being managed with help of my parents a few days,helpers employed after they left. My husband and kids learnt to manage everything without my help. Before my accident, I felt everyone was dependent completely on me. But I was in such an illusion. Lesson learnt. I am not Indispensable. A neighbor lost her husband. She was not well educated to secure a job after his death.2 small children to be cared.House to be run.Old parents too dependent. Everyone wondered,how things will work as her late husband was the sole earning person. Everyone else...

FOMO fear

  FOMO I was at my evening walk in a nearby park. As temperatures are high nowadays, park is seeing many walkers in the evening. 2 ladies were conversing behind. One lady" My son complained that he was the only one amongst all his friends who doesn't have a Playstation. I have been forcing my husband to buy one fir the child so that he doesn't feel left out." This conversation took me back to my childhood. Growing up in a middle class surrounding, either nobody had luxury or it would be just one home who just bought a Color Television. All the neighborhood would gather in that one home and together would watch a popular movie on a Sunday evening. FOMO- Fear of Missing Out... This feeling was never there yesteryears. Today,FOMO is forcing everyone into indulgence. Beyond their capacity or unnecessary. In school,rules were strict. Everyone had to bring simple roti and sabji in tiffin. No frivolous expensive items were allowed in school. Parents too never ove...

Why me,Ma?

  Why me,Ma? As Anaesthesiologist, I work in all fields of Medicine. Some cases melt you emotionally. Paediatric patients are very emotional. In my years of experience, personally ,I have found Paediatric group easy and difficult both. Difficult for Anaesthesia. But easy to deal with as the Paediatric age groups have more pain threshold and resilience compared to adult. A Cancer advanced stages child comes for Scans Sedation is required because the child is in excruciating pain..... A child suffering from debilitating disease which is hereditary. The other child born is healthy..... The eyes of the suffering child ask .." Why me?" The child who is working hard,sincerely ,with lots of efforts, for any exam or difficult situation in life ....at any age..... if fails to make the mark..and in disappointment asks" Why me,Ma? This question just leaves a Parent helpless....flabbergasted . A helpless situation where no solutions nor answers can be found. Parenting is...