Walk of life

  I am my sole Critic. I learnt this very early in my life. I was in an interview for selection of students to perform Arangetram ,our first official dance performance on stage. Along with me were many girls from my dance school. I looked around. All of them were tall,slim,beautiful. The photographer present there for photoshoot of the girls to be selected was taking pictures of only those girls who were lithsome and elegant....actually good-looking. Eyes on me questioned my eligibility as I was short, plump,dark ....to summarize Ugly. My turn came..... My dance was so graceful ...my Guruji and all girls present simply stood still watching me dance .. almost the entire sequence of 1 hour . Everyone forgot about my physical appearance. That moment.....all that every one saw was my facial expressions and my flawless ,smooth body moving to the song and beat....rhythmic and mesmerizing. I got an applause and lots of blessings from my Guruji. I learnt a lesson about life. ...

 Mother. Mother is the person by definition who carries a child in her womb for 9 months,bears the excruciating labor pain and brings a new life into this world. Nurturing and Caring.....is her Maternal love. But just giving birth to a baby isn't enough. Raising the child to become a confident, compassionate and strong human being is what makes a Woman ....A Mother. It's not necessary to birth the child..... It's how you Raise the child....even if you haven't given birth...to the child. A child looks at the Mother 's face to understand emotions in the beginning.  I learnt this after I had my first baby. My son would look at my face whenever he was taken for his checkups and treatment. Initially, as a new Mommy,anxiety would be seen in my eyes and emotions. He would start crying even if he wasn't hurt by anything.  Soon,I learnt to control my emotions and anxiety. I would go for each of his  Doctor 's visit smiling and make him laugh.Result was,my son would b...

  Blind ???? Yesterday I saw the movie " Shrikanth". Biopic on Visually impaired Shrikanth Bola, MIT graduate and successful entrepreneur. Played v aesthetically by Rajkumarr Rao. He says" In our country,2% are Visually Impaired.but the rest 98% is Blind". So so true. Blind to not see so many things. Lack of Civic Sense- Blind to not be able to see the wastebins kept in corner.Hence,we Indians throw used plastic waterbottles,chocolate wrappers,chips packets right on the ground in public places or on road while walking or from our cars. Lack of Respect- Apathy and Arrogance makes us spit every where without seeing....someone passing by..... Without seeing place or property.... Hence all walls and roads of India are pink and red because of Pan / Gutkha stains. Beautiful monuments which speak of our rich heritage.....are stained. Blind to Rules- We can't see signals nor sign boards. We jump red signals, enter no entry.... We park in No Parking. We d...

 Enjoying  a Lemonade..... Today being Sunday,I go for a long run. But instead,I decided to go for a long walk over Nruptatunga Betta,a small hillock in Hubli . The temperatures soaring during the day and nights sweltering too this summer,the cool breeze early morning was a blessing.  Usually on Sundays, my runs are tracked by my Samsung phone. My attention is more on my pace and distance covered.  The cool breeze on the hill made me completely ignore my phone,my pace and time. First time I was concentrating more on the sounds of nature than tracking my activity. I could hear the Koyal singing..... Sparrows chirping.... Peacocks shouting somewhere far in the background.  I saw a squirrel running hither tether....across the road. Some children were playing ball .....while some badminton.  First time I was not disturbed for hours by ringing of my phone . I was completely at leisure enjoying my surroundings and my walk without rushing back.... No stress of rac...

  Game of Cards. I don't endorse betting on cards.nor advocate gambling. Cards is a game,we kids of 80s played in Summer vacation afternoons. There were no ACs nor coolers. No outdoor game centres. No Online games,no laptops,no Playstations. No Summer workshops. No tours nor traveling . So the 2 months long Mumbai Summers, sweltering hot afternoons,were spent in indoor games like Cards,Board games and the brighter ones played Chess. Playing Cards with cousins and friends  was enjoyed by all. At night ,even the elders would join us. Game of Cards taught us kids many things. Many life lessons Learnt. Cards if played as a Team taught us to compete with each other ,against and together. Team spirit taught us to support the weaker players in the group. Card Games taught us to rejoice even in loss.The winner and loser both pitched in for icecreams after the game. Card Games had cheaters too .Those who never could face a loss,would cheat on their cards.In life, you do e...

  Am I Indispensible? I met with an accident. Got hit by a racing car which tried to jump the red signal. Resulting in a Cast on my leg for 1 month. My kids were small, and majority of housework especially cooking was done by me. Left me perplexed and anxious. How will things work out daily because of my inability to perform  household chores? Initial 2 days,I agree,were difficult and disorganized. But ,I saw the house and kids being managed with help of my parents a few days,helpers employed after they left. My husband and kids learnt to manage everything without my help. Before my accident, I felt everyone was dependent completely on me. But I was in such an illusion. Lesson learnt. I am not Indispensable. A neighbor lost her husband. She was not well educated to secure a job after his death.2 small children to be cared.House to be run.Old parents too dependent. Everyone wondered,how things will work as her late husband was the sole earning person. Everyone else...