When the Umbilical cord gets cut

 When the umbilical chord gets cut.....

I had just got engaged. 

My parents, myself and my fiancé went to Alibaug for a picnic.

When I was getting off the jetty,2 hands got extended to offer help for me to get down. 

But my eyes saw only one.

The hand of the new person who had just entered my life.

I overlooked completely that old hand which had carried me since the day I was born.The hand which held me when I learned to put my first steps.

The hand which had guided me throughout and which supported me during my most vulnerable situations.....till today.

I found confidence today in that hand which had just entered my life a few days ago.

I accompanied my close friend to visit her newly married son.

The son who she had given birth,nurtured and till yesterday was dependent totally upon her.

Today,the new member who recently had got added into the family, was talking about the likes and dislikes of the Man who was once Son of my friend. 

Her son once never liked Bittergourd at all.....

But today,he as the husband was relishing Bittergourd prepared by the " New Member" and even helping her in household chores.

When the new member enters the life of our child....

The Umbilical cord gets cut.

It's a mixed feeling. 

At one hand,it's exhilarating to see another person love your child equally as you do.

Another person who your child now trusts.

Another person who cares about your child and so does your child in return. 

But,.....

at the same time, as a Parent you fear of losing your baby forever to another person who has just entered his/ her life.

Who seems to know your child better than you ( at least at face value).

You are watching your baby turn into a different adult person in front of you.....

Totally different from what he/ she was till yesterday with you.

Your child till yesterday needed you for every aspect. Your child seeked your opinion for each small thing. 

Today,no longer has time to even attend your phone call.

Does the Umbilical cord really gets totally cut forever?

No.

Emotionally,child is ever connected to Parent forever.

In my most vulnerable moments, even today,at 50yrs of age,I remember my Parents especially my Father the most.

I may not seek his advice for everything. 

But most important milestones and desperate situations, my phone call goes even today to my Father.

Dear Parent, 

A child is your child forever....no matter how much he/ she ages ...

A Parent is always a Parent for that child...no matter how much they age.

The Umbilical cord is never cut.

The child at any moment especially most vulnerable situations always seeks the Parent.....whoever far away or however grown he/ she maybe.

Yes,circumstances do change.

But relationships never.

- Dr Tripti Milind Galgali 

Hubli.