Emotional Education

 Emotional Education. 

In India,since a child is born,both girls and boys ,are given Education. 

Once the child learns to talk.....

Proud parents and grandparents make the child repeat...

" A for Apple....

B for Ball ...

1,2,3..

Later the child rotes learn Literature, Mathematics ...later Sciences and Social sciences. 

Only Curriculum is given importance in terms of Education. 

Whether at home or at schools and colleges. 

But......

When it comes to Emotions.....

The child is expected to learn about Emotions on own as life throws its own challenges and forces one to create own path and journey. 

India is a Patriarchal Society where Men are supposed to behave certain way.They are taught to follow certain attitudes and mindsets. 

Women are ingrained with particular dictums of society since childhood. 

A small boy is taught to " Toughen" up to be a " Man".

A certain definition of Masculinity is taught to him since young.

Tears and Fear are 2 emotions which are very much human instincts.

But these 2 emotions are termed amasculine. 

The young boy is taught to suppress these 2 essential emotions under the garb of Male Ego and Dominance.

On the other hand,a young girl is taught wrong definition of Feminism.

Her strength and her voice to express her emotions and opinions is suppressed.

She is taught to simply follow orders under the Garb of Duty and Responsibility towards Family.

Docile and Submissive.

When Emotions get suppressed or are taught to hide since childhood, when a boy and girl after becoming Adults start their own Family......

Though they are well educated Curriculum wise....

They are Emotionally Challenged. 

They both don't know how to react when they personally face or feel certain emotions. 

Fear,Anger,Pain,Disagreement, Discomfort,Apprehension..........

They don't know how to react nor respond to self or to their partner if above emotions come into play in situations and circumstances.....

They both don't know how to Emote either through words or through expressions when facing or experiencing certain situations or Feelings. 

When 2 Emotionally uneducated or Challenged people come together, misunderstandings and conflicts are bound to occur. 

If overlooked or ignored initially, rifts start.

Further cracks the bond in that relationship. 

There needs to be a healthy dialogue between 2 individuals without fear of each other,without bias or ego,equal opportunity to express....irrespective of age and gender. 

Submission to pressure or Suppression of emotions both are detrimental in long period. 

Any relationship needs respect and trust between 2 individuals. Without underlying Fear or Hatred or Ego or Authority. 

Here,I am ,talking of a relationship in general....

Any Relationship....between 

Parent- Child( when child becomes adult),

Teacher- Student

Siblings,

Husband- Wife

,Friends, 

Workplace.....

Today,we find more rifts and conflicts....because though with changing trends ,attitudes and mindsets in generation and society......

The Emotional Education is found lacking. 

Teaching a child to rightly express Emotions without suppression,with empathy to others Feelings.....without Ego or Authority. 

Emotional Maturity.....

is very important for healthy society and long lasting relationships.

- Dr Tripti Milind Galgali 

Hubli.