Cutting Umbilical cord

 



Cutting the Umbilical cord.
-Dr Tripti Milind Galgali.
As soon as baby is delivered from the womb,the Umbilical cord is cut.The baby becomes independent of the mother and takes its first breath and gives out a loud lofty cry .......
Though the Umbilical cord gets cut physically......the Mother still is emotionally connected to her Baby forever.
Even when the baby starts getting independent.....Walking, Expressing and Venturing into outside world......
Parenting begins......
Parenting decides..... Cutting the Umbilical Cord metaphorically.
Emotionally and Physically......Cutting The Umbilical Cord.
Actual Detachment from your kid.
In medieval period, when child reaches pre Puberty, Pre Adolescent age..... around 8 to 10yrs of age,.....Gurukul phase.
Kids were sent to Gurukul. Education- Knowledge- Skills.
The life of the child used to be Wisdom.Stress was on gaining knowledge- Wisdom and Life skills.
Hard work,Sincerity and dedication.
No trace of Luxury and Lavishness.
Spiritual and minimalism.
Purity and Simplicity  .
When Gurukul teaching gets over.
The Child reaches Adolescence, he/ she starts Professional training in field of choice under experts.
Finally, when Adulthood is entered,then started Grihastaashrama.....Marriage and Family.
When child enters this phase.....
Parents went to Vanaprasthashrama.......means Detachment completely from the child which has become an Adult.
Today,neither is a kid allowed to go to a " Gurukul " and lead a Simple and Pure Life of only Knowledge.
Nor are Parents letting go off Parenting and following " Vanaprasthashrama".
Every demand , urges,wants of the kid is " Provided" and " Fulfilled ".
Everything is given to the kid whether he wants or not.
Every need is Fulfilled before the kid asks for it......
A full stomach child never knows " Hunger".
An  ever " Provided " kid doesn't know to " Give".
A kid living in lap of luxury doesn't understand " Desperation".
So even as an Adult,one ends up expecting to be " Provided".Person finds it difficult to adjust, and compromise .Person gets anxious in  less adequate, challenging situations.
When reality goes Paradigm Shift from expectations......in any aspect- Education, Professional, Personal relationship......
Disgruntle, Disappointment, Separation,......unfortunately Suicide......
Emotional Turbulence in life.
If Parents don't follow " Vanaprasthashrama " as soon as Child reaches Adulthood.....
The Physical and Emotional Attachment to the Child by the Parents.....I have seen some Parents sacrifice their Savings and Securities in order to support the Child.
Some Parents get so much involved in every aspect of life of the Child....there is interference in personal life and choking of the Child.
So How to Cut the Umbilical Cord?
What age must Parents Cut themselves off from the Umbilical Cord?
How much or What is Right way of Detachment?????
How much to Support- Physically, Financially,and Emotionally?
Each Parent has their own views.
Nobody is perfectly right.....nor absolutely wrong.
I too am struggling with my Parenting outlook.
I too am trying to find the path of Parenting- which is never straight, never easy,not too difficult......and ever challenging.
Can we Parents ever " Provide" for our kid?
No.Parents can never " Provide" everything in life.
There does come a time when child has to  Search his  own  path,at times make mistakes, face the challenges,Fall,Falter,Break,get Hurt.....
Not all times things will be favorable.
Not all moments enjoyable....
Not all outcomes as expected.
Child has to get up on own.....and travel life journey independently till end.
Umbilical Cord needs to be Cut off.

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