Valuable Antiques

 Valuable Antiques.

A few days back,a group of friends were conversing regarding Matrimonial sites, T& Cs of prospective Girls and Boys.

Pay package was the main criteria for choice.

I was appalled to hear one of the T& Cs of some prospects and the parents.....

How many " Antiques " ?????

Antiques......

A name given for old parents. 

The prospects didn't want any old parents staying with the Boy.

Old parents.....aged....dependent. 

They added responsibility and burden. 

I had my Grandmother ( Maternal) staying with us.My Paternal Grandfatther visited us often. 

I would visit my Aunts during summer holidays and they had their inlaws aged dependent staying with them.

Always been with Grandparents. 

They were loving but strict.

They taught me discipline, sincerity and importance of hard work and empathy.Through tales from Ramayana, Mahabharata and quotes from Bhagwad Geeta they inculcated right values and morality in all kids.

Even when they were not keeping good health, during my 12th boards and MBBS exams,when I was so nervous and apprehensive, they wrote letters to me boosting my morale and confidence. 

My parents were both working to raise us well. 

My dear Grandparents took responsibility as my Caretaker......

I must say.....The Antiques did a valuable job.

When I got married and had children......

My in laws and my parents.....

Both had been very busy that they missed out so much valuable time with their kids due to work commitments and responsibilities.

That absence and paucity missed out got fulfilled by spending maximum time with grandchildren.

We adults as Parents are unable to give " TIME" .....most valuable gift ......completely unconditional, uninterrupted.....absolutely undisturbed.......to our kids while raising them.

The guilt of neglecting our kids makes us compensate that deficit of " TIME" by buying them expensive gifts and gadgets.

" Quality Time" ......a new word coined by us Hyperbusy work oriented Adults.

A few hours spent with loved ones .

But our young children can't be raised right with few moments of these ' Quality Time' from our side as Parents. 

They need someone at most times especially at an age where they are most vulnerable and dependent both physically and emotionally. 

A period where they are like clay....need to be molded right for that perfect shape tomorrow. 

Tender live,discipline, right values and morales.

So if we as Parents are not able to provide that at home for our kids......obviously no day care center of limited hours full of strangers....or an Education centre ....can't replace nor play role of Parents. 

Grandparents.......

Dear Adults.....

Aged Parents may have lots of gray hair and wrinkles....but they have a heart of Gold.

They maybe physically weak and dependent.....bring lots of responsibility and support with them....a burden to hyperbusy lives.

But the amount of love and affection they carry for your children.....the next generation....is immense.

No gadget nor expensive gift can compensate the Deficit of Live,Attention and warmth needed to raise a child right.

Grandparents compensate that Deficit left by us in our child 's life caused due to our work commitments.

The best and most expensive gift we parents can give tour child is.....

Grandparents.....

The moments we spent as kids with our grandparents were golden ones.....memories which are a treasure today for us.

Please do not deny this cherished bond of your child with your Aged Parents.....

The Grand Parents......

Keep your Parents....Aged,old,dependent....near you.

They are Valuable Antiques.....

Priceless Treasures for next generation. 

Blog in remembrance to my dearest Ajji......

Miss you dearest Ajji.

- Dr Tripti Milind Galgali 

Hubli.