When 2 come together

 When 2 come together...

During caveman age,man and woman came together.
The Man went out to hunt and provide food for the family,while the woman stayed back in the cave ,nurturing, bearing and Caring.
This understanding between 2 people..The Man and The Woman.....
When the 2 come together...
To form a Family......

The Man is the Care Giver.
The Woman is the Care Taker.

For many many years,the Man took complete responsibility of being the Provider.
The Woman took complete responsibility of being the Nurturer.
The Man was ever outside for major part of life and day.
The Woman stayed at home ever.

Hence,each was dependent upon the other for their needs.
The 2 stayed together due to dependecy.

Today,woman too has come out and spread wings.She too has a career and is financially independent.

The Man is now learning to nurture along with working outside.

When both Man and Woman ,are playing dual role.....Giver and Carer....

When the 2 come together....

How does the union work....when both are doing both works?

Today,Marriage is  Union between 2 people equally proficient, skilled....and Independent.

Many Women opt for traditional practice of nurturing and Caring once they accept Motherhood.
Workforce sees a higher percentage of dropout amongst  highly educated and proficient woman employees after Motherhood.

Few of them, choose dual responsibility of Giver and Carer.

When,the 2 meet.....
And decide to be equal contributors to giving and caring.....in a Marriage.....as a Family......

Not all times,is the contribution equal,50-50.

At times ,the weighing scale for nurturing and Caring, especially in the initial days of Motherhood, when the child is dependent more on the mother.....tips more towards her.
Then,these times,the Man has to bear the financial responsibility more and has to be the major provider.

Whatever be the circumstances or understanding or choices of and between 2 people....
When the 2 come together.....as a Family.....
If they need to sustain and amicably stay....

RESPECT-
Both need to respect each other's choices,decisions and efforts.....as a Provider,Giver and Carer.

ACKNOWLEDGE-
Both need to acknowledge each other's contributions and efforts for providing, caring and giving.
Agreed,in a marriage, neither will be giving equal contributions. Always,the scales are going to tip one side for providing and caring.But Both actually Give 💯.

Ego -
When respect and acknowledgement drops,...when each one feels self dominant in their individual roles....Ego comes in the relationship.

Ego and Vanity bring bitterness and feeling of betrayal .

Dear Friends,
When 2 people come together, the bonding becomes stronger with trust.
Whatever role the 2 people decide upon....or even if they both opt for sharing Both responsibilities equally......

Marriage and Family rearing...is a Team Effort.

A Team,where people choose their responsibilities and Accountability.....
Or share responsibilities and Accountability gets divided.

But,a Team where one is completely dominant and other is hostile....mutely following orders....the Marriage sustains....but  doesn't grow.

Marriage needs to sustain, yes....for years  both need to be together....
But,a Marriage needs to see both people grow equally  and happily, as individuals.....not under shadow of another.

Marriage puts 2 people face many ups and downs together. The real Test of their Union, is when they come out of difficult times as a Team together, supporting each other.

Marriage and Love.....
Just physical attraction and professing love by saying " I Love you", or showering expensive gifts,Proclaiming undying love by gestures and words on Social media....
Agreed,expression of Love is also necessary for keeping the sparks alive between 2 people....to stay together long.....
But,Marriage is deeper understanding and commaderie between 2 people who stand strong and support each other at all times.

Let's redefine Valentine Day this year.
Let's understand the true essence of Love and Marriage.


A Healthy and Happy Marriage....
When 2 people come together.......
TO FORM A FAMILY.

- Dr Tripti Milind Galgali
Hubli.