Allow me to Fall.

 Allow me to Fall?????


Parents always want to teach their kid to Fly.
They want and ever strive to be the Wind that propels and stabilizes the wings to fly.....so that baby soars higher across the vast blue sky.
In Marathi, " Ghe Bharari"...." Fly high".
My first born chose to follow his parents ' profession.
He worked hard ,scored a good rank in NEET ( pre medical enterance after PUC/ 12th boards) and secured admission to a medical college in Karnataka.
As an anxious parent, I wanted to prepare my kid to face difficulties of hostel life and Medical college journey.
Hence,narrated stories of my experiences during MBBS....and I am a good story teller.
By the time, my son came to 2nd year....he told me" Mom,you did good job preparing me to face hostel and Medical college life Whatever you experienced was similar to what I came across. I was well prepared because of your stories.But Same time,it robbed me from the novelty and surprise of each experience.Allow me to Fall.....allow me to commit mistakes  ....allow me to get hurt.So that I can get up and move ahead."
A lesson of Parenting so well taught!!!
Today,we become so over cautious and over protective about our kid.....
We discuss everything with our kid in order to prepare kid to face World.
As an Anaesthesiologist, I had become so used to protocols and detailed instructions to face Emmergencies which most times came unknocked......that I tried execution of Parenting duties in similar way.
Yes.I was successful in preparing my kid to face Hostel and Medical journey....but the whole thing robbed my son of enjoyment and novelty of the new Phase of his life.
Mistakes made with first child gets corrected with 2nd.So the details weren't passed .some important instructions only given.
Another aspect of Parenting learnt with both kids joining same profession .....here my both are 4th generation in Medical profession.....
The journey and difficulties remain same for generations. But the outlook and perception towards the ups and downs are different with each generation and each person.
My kids growing up in same environment faced similar challenges in hostel and Medical school but their outlook and perception was different.
That is what moulds a person into an individual....identity......a Personality.
Allow me to Fall.
Allow me to face failure.
Allow me to despair and be desperate.
So that I can get up.....face......fight.....and learn.
Let your child get hurt.
How he/ she responds to the hurt is what will carve him / her a separate identity and individual.

If we are flying a kite.....
We do allow it to fall on the ground couple of times.....then tug it......and with determination and Grit.....the kite gets up at a tug.....slowly catching up with the wind below it.......and gradually soars high flying across the blue sky.

- Dr Tripti Milind Galgali
Hubli.

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